Just be nice. You’ve heard it from your mother. You heard it in kindergarten (and through school). It’s on tee-shirts and bumper stickers. And, it’s good advice, for the most part. But, it’s a recipe for disaster when it’s always your default disposition. Sure, you should be nice to people as it’s the polite thing to do. But, being too nice will cause all kinds of unintentional issues. Read on to see why. How Assertiveness can Hurt You On the flip side, being too assertive can also be quite harmful. Don’t get the wrong impression. You do need to be assertive, just at the right “temperature.” If you are too assertive, you’ll come across as overbearing. And, downright mean, in some situations. People also might think you too coarse and possibly aloof or antipathetic. Leaders are placed under a tremendous amount of pressure to be relatable, human and … nice. Many yield to this instinct, because it feels much easier to be liked. Few people want to be the bad guy. But leaders are also expected to make the tough decisions that serve the company or the team’s best interests. Being too nice can be lazy, inefficient, irresponsible, and harmful to individuals and the organization. —Havard Business Review Assertiveness can also be taken as overly self-serving. Basically, it’s an attitude that can easily come across the wrong way in more ways than one. Although, assertiveness does have a purpose and when it’s used strategically, it’s highly effective. That’s because striking a balance gives you the best of both worlds and a positive perspective. Which ultimately helps you to see things more clearly and make better decisions. Top Ways being Too Nice is Harmful Conversely, being too nice, is at best, problematic. It creates illusions that simply can’t be sustained. In essence, it’s a false impression, even if you’re being genuine. How? Well, here’s how being too nice is harmful in business: You project weakness. When you’re overly nice, you’re perceived as a pushover. It’s that simple. People who have this impression will try to take advantage, when and where they can. And, that sets-up a bad scenario. You attract the wrong people. Another problem with being too nice is that it does attract the wrong sort of people. Some others will take this as a green light to burden you with their own problems. Which means, you’re inviting unnecessary stress and drama into your life. People might feel distrustful. Niceness can bring out negative feelings in others you interact with. For instance, someone could sense you’re actually concealing your true feelings and merely putting up a front. So, they manifest a sense of distrustfulness. You bias your own expectations. When you’re constantly nice, you might make others feel better. But, you’re also inadvertently warping your own expectations, thinking everyone else should treat you the same. How do you balance being courteous and polite with also being assertive? What other advice would you offer? Please share your thoughts and experiences! Interested in learning more about business? Then just visit Waters Business Consulting Group.

We’ve already gone over the most common signs a business partnership is in trouble. Dave Ramsey is well known for saying that “The only ship that won’t sail is a partnership.” Indeed, far many more business partnerships fail then succeed. But, what happens after a partner leaves the company? What do you do then? 5 Steps to Immediate Take when a Business Partner Quits Your first step — and perhaps the most important step — is to take a step back. Don’t panic. Even if it’s abrupt, now is not the time to come apart at the seams. Though easier said than done, it’s imperative to remain calm in order to think clearly. If you don’t maintain control, it will only add to the anxiety and uncertainty. At the beginning of any business partnership, the partners usually envision a long-term relationship. Unfortunately, expectations notwithstanding, longevity is often limited; the goals and expectations of the individual partners will change at least to some degree over a period of time. This is why an exit strategy must be developed by and between all partners. It will ensure that if one partner leaves the company, his or her absence will not destroy the integrity of the company and its ability to stay afloat. —Entrepreneur.com Second, get in the know. Jump into his or her schedule, work product, etc, and find out exactly what’s been going on. This is where you’ll learn what he or she was actually doing. And it could reveal some very upsetting findings. Although, if his or her work was exceptional, that too might also cause you to panic because now it’s an even bigger role to fill. What to Do when a Business Partner Leaves When a business partner leaves the company, you not only have to remain calm and learn exactly what’s been happening in his or her roll, you’ll also have to do the following for the sake of continuity: Assess what’s necessary. Next, you’ll need to take on at least some of his or her job roles. It’s really dependent on the particular situation, but you might consider absorbing one or more of his or her roles in the business. In the alternative, it might be better to parcel the work out to others within the company, or even outsource. Delegate responsibilities. If your former partner had people under him or her, these people will likely have a wealth of knowledge. They are also ideal candidates to delegate responsibilities. That will help to keep things going without really missing a beat. Formulate a plan for the future. Once you’ve filled the void and things settle down, it’s time to think about what to do in the future. Even if you don’t take on a new business partner, it’s important to have a continuity plan for the sake of the company. This is where an experienced business consultant or coach’s advice can really come in handy. What other advice do you have? Please comment and let us know your thoughts and experiences! Interested in learning more about business? Then just visit Waters Business Consulting Group.