Business Owners, Want to be Better Leaders? Then, Stop Apologizing and Use these Sentiments Instead

If you’re anything like the average person, your parents probably instilled in you the courtesy to apologize. Saying you’re sorry is one of the most important keystones of polite society. So, it should definitely not come as a surprise that very politeness eventually turns into second nature compulsion. In fact, people use the phrase way too often and don’t really think about its effects. Now, in purely interpersonal situations, this is probably quite benign. But, when you’re running a business, this habit could cause a lot of unnecessary trouble.

Apologizing isn’t Always Positive

Of course, there have been academic studies confirming that apologizing too much tends to have adverse outcomes. It not only shows a willingness to capitulate, but it also underscores an underlying weakness. Furthermore, the same studies reveal that it can cause anger or resentment in others – two emotions you definitely want to avoid, if at all possible.
After you hurt someone’s feelings or do something wrong, it turns out that saying sorry might not be the best solution. In fact, an apology might just add fuel to the fire, a recent study by researchers from Dartmouth College and the University of Texas has found. —Entrepreneur.com
Apologizing too much doesn’t always result in dire circumstances. But, it may also easily create the impression that you’ll simply go along to get along no matter what. In other words, give the impression your preference is to avoid any and all confrontation, because it is too uncomfortable for you to handle. Obviously, none of these things are good for an entrepreneur, but this doesn’t mean you have to be stubborn, obtuse, or even mean.

3 Alternatives to Saying your Sorry

When you apologize, you’re not only relating your own disposition, you’re sending signals to the other person or group of people. Fortunately, there are at least three handy phrases you can use in place of saying you’re sorry or apologizing outright:
  • “I appreciate your patience.” Whether you’re late for an appointment or something is taking longer than it should have, save the apology and use this phrase instead. It has the same effect that you’re looking for but doesn’t put the blame solely on you and compliments the other person.
  • “Thank you for working with me.” This is a great alternative when things aren’t going according to plan. In a sense, you’re still apologizing, but you are not doing so directly, and again you are giving the other person a nice compliment.
  • “Here’s a slightly different perspective.” Rather than blurting out an apology for something you haven’t said yet, use this expression to bolster your credibility and get people to actually listen to what you have to say. This is a terrific way to join in on a conversation or to bring your point of view up.
What other suggestions do you have for apology alternatives? Please, take a few moments to share your thoughts and experiences so others can benefit from your input! Interested in learning more about business? Then just visit Waters Business Consulting Group.

Like this article?

Share on Facebook
Share on Twitter
Share on Linkdin
Share on Pinterest

Related Posts

How Businesses can Prepare for Inevitable Change

April 26, 2021 No Comments

Right now, the real estate market is super hot in many parts of the country. (But, totally cold in other sectors.) Currently, builders are experiencing huge disruption due to fast-rising material prices, especially lumber. Meanwhile, take-out restaurants are flourishing in some areas, while others barely hang on. This picture looks like chaos from a distance but it represents the manifestation of the old saying, “the only constant is change.” And, that’s always a threat — or blessing — to businesses. So, read on to learn more about how to prepare for inevitable change. The Change Conundrum When real estate prices rise steeply, people remodel their homes instead of buying. Others take advantage of the market and downsize to capitalize on their equity position. But, it also causes first-time homebuyers to stay out of the market until prices stabilize. When food prices rise, restaurants must make changes to their menus. Of course, higher food prices means fewer sales as people stay home and cook themselves. In today’s ever-changing and often-chaotic business environment, it is imperative for successful organizations to understand how to make change work when everything is changing. These massive changes now require a bold-new paradigm shift away from traditional approaches to how to manage change, to innovative approaches to view organizations as “organisms” with flexible resources, cohesive teams, connected networks, and clear flat structures that can endure in the most turbulent times. —Houston Business Journal The obvious point here is that when change occurs, some businesses benefit, while others suffer. Right now, the disruption caused by the pandemic and shutdowns, along with re-openings, are causing huge changes. The good news is that businesses that prepare can not only survive, but thrive. 3 Ways Businesses can Prepare for Inevitable Change Fortunately, the current environment won’t continue on forever. Lumber prices will fall, inflation will rise, and other economic circumstances will also change. Businesses that recognize what’s going on take action to adapt and can actually make it through or grow by doing the following: Accept reality. Lumber won’t always sell for the price it is now. Home prices will continue to rise, but not at such a rapid clip. Inflation won’t always be a significant factor. In other words, businesses can’t expect the present climate to go on and on and on forever. So, look at what’s on the horizon and don’t procrastinate. Instead, accept reality for what it brings and you’ll be able to cope much better. Plan for change. Once you accept what is changing (or will change in the future), it’s time to start planning to make it through the transition. Think strategically and prioritize what’s most important. This provides a great opportunity to streamline and improve operations. Alter operations incrementally. Speaking of operations, unless you fully expect things to change massively, don’t alter your way of doing business profoundly. Rather, make small, incremental changes to adopt to the changing times so you can always roll things back, if necessary. What other suggestions do you have? Please take a few minutes to comment and share your thoughts and experiences so others can benefit from your perspective. It just might help someone in a big way! Interested in learning more about business? Then just visit Waters Business Consulting Group.

Read More »

The Landlord is Seriously Raising My Business Space Rent – What are My Options?

July 13, 2022 No Comments

Commercial tenants can expect their rent to go up every year. In fact, it’s a bit unusual for the rate not to increase at the end of a lease. But sometimes, unscrupulous landlords will take advantage of their tenants’ naivete and exercise a somewhat obscure clause that allows them to up the rental rate substantially. So much, that it can increase by a relatively high percentage, thus making it virtually unaffordable. Fortunately, there are some options commercial tenants have in these situations. Business Owners, Know Your Lease Although it may seem completely obvious or self-evident, don’t just skim over any commercial lease. If necessary, pay an attorney to look it over and explain it to you on a very elementary basis. Or, go over it carefully yourself and if you don’t understand something, be sure to research it on your own – do not just take the landlord’s word for what it truly means. There’s no standard agreement for commercial leases. In fact, negotiating the terms of commercial leases is usually expected. Depending on the state of the commercial real estate market, a business may be able to obtain significant concessions from a landlord. A property owner with a largely vacant business park, for example, will most likely make allowances. On the other hand, the business renting the space will have less control over the terms of a lease in a hot rental market or when renting a premium space. —FindLaw Small Business We’re not going to get into commercial lease types, because there are many kinds. But, it is quite common for leases to contain various expenses besides just renting pure square feet, including common area maintenance and repairs, and other expenses. However, it certainly isn’t unheard of that tenants get stuck with even more expenses related to their business rentals. So, again, be sure to understand the lease before you sign on the dotted line in order to avoid any confusion or surprises in the future. What To Do When Your Business Rent goes Up Unexpectedly If the commercial space you’re leasing for your business goes up dramatically, you do have some options available, though they may not always be the best. Here are a few things you can do if the landlord raises the rental rate on your commercial space: Do your research first. Start by getting a firm grasp on your state’s commercial rental laws. This won’t necessarily be a fun task, but a very necessary one. If you understand how these laws work, you may find something in your favor. At the very least, you’ll have more knowledge about how the landlord-tenant laws work in your state and will be wiser to make better decisions in the future. Survey the local market. The next thing you should do is to start looking at other commercial spaces immediately. You just may find some deals out there that would allow you to either lower your current rental rate or be competitive. Because of the pandemic disruption, many commercial landlords are desperate for tenants, since so many businesses have adopted work-from-home and hybrid models. Try to renegotiate your current lease. Another option is to try to renegotiate the lease on the property you are currently occupying. You can use your newfound knowledge of the law and of the local market opportunities to your advantage. This is especially helpful if you really want to avoid the hassles of moving your operation elsewhere, and the landlord is willing to be reasonable. How else would you deal with a sudden commercial rent increase? Please take a few moments to share your thoughts and experiences so others can benefit from your input! Interested in learning more about business? Then just visit Waters Business Consulting Group.

Read More »