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Business Owners, Want to be Better Leaders? Then, Stop Apologizing and Use these Sentiments Instead

If you’re anything like the average person, your parents probably instilled in you the courtesy to apologize. Saying you’re sorry is one of the most important keystones of polite society. So, it should definitely not come as a surprise that very politeness eventually turns into second nature compulsion. In fact, people use the phrase way too often and don’t really think about its effects. Now, in purely interpersonal situations, this is probably quite benign. But, when you’re running a business, this habit could cause a lot of unnecessary trouble.

Apologizing isn’t Always Positive

Of course, there have been academic studies confirming that apologizing too much tends to have adverse outcomes. It not only shows a willingness to capitulate, but it also underscores an underlying weakness. Furthermore, the same studies reveal that it can cause anger or resentment in others – two emotions you definitely want to avoid, if at all possible.

After you hurt someone’s feelings or do something wrong, it turns out that saying sorry might not be the best solution. In fact, an apology might just add fuel to the fire, a recent study by researchers from Dartmouth College and the University of Texas has found. —Entrepreneur.com

Apologizing too much doesn’t always result in dire circumstances. But, it may also easily create the impression that you’ll simply go along to get along no matter what. In other words, give the impression your preference is to avoid any and all confrontation, because it is too uncomfortable for you to handle. Obviously, none of these things are good for an entrepreneur, but this doesn’t mean you have to be stubborn, obtuse, or even mean.

3 Alternatives to Saying your Sorry

When you apologize, you’re not only relating your own disposition, you’re sending signals to the other person or group of people. Fortunately, there are at least three handy phrases you can use in place of saying you’re sorry or apologizing outright:

“I appreciate your patience.” Whether you’re late for an appointment or something is taking longer than it should have, save the apology and use this phrase instead. It has the same effect that you’re looking for but doesn’t put the blame solely on you and compliments the other person.
“Thank you for working with me.” This is a great alternative when things aren’t going according to plan. In a sense, you’re still apologizing, but you are not doing so directly, and again you are giving the other person a nice compliment.
“Here’s a slightly different perspective.” Rather than blurting out an apology for something you haven’t said yet, use this expression to bolster your credibility and get people to actually listen to what you have to say. This is a terrific way to join in on a conversation or to bring your point of view up.

What other suggestions do you have for apology alternatives? Please, take a few moments to share your thoughts and experiences so others can benefit from your input! Interested in learning more about business? Then just visit Waters Business Consulting Group.

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How to Fire Someone, Anyone, Like a Boss

May 16, 2017 No Comments

In business, there’s going to be times that put your toughness or timidity, to the test. If you’re an owner, partner, or manager, you might be tasked with firing someone. It could be your employee, your business lawyer, your accountant, a vendor, or someone else. You’ve heard that character is defined by what you do when nobody’s looking, and though giving someone the boot generally happens in a private setting, the other person will be walking out with their own perspective. So, it’s imperative you don’t turn a bad situation worse. Your goal is threefold, to end the relationship, to maintain your good reputation, and to do so with grace and respect. Even someone that’s toxic deserves your forbearance, because it says a lot about you as a person, and, as a leader. It also preserves a semblance of the relationship, something that might be valuable in future encounters and situations. You might even find yourself in the unenviable position of rehiring that same person. How to Fire Someone, Anyone, Like a Boss A firing begins with the first signs of trouble. In those moments, you might feel anger or surprise, depending on what occurs. What you should do when problems begin to arise, is to get to the underlying reasons. Approach him or her, ask questions, and listen to the answers. If the problems persist, try mentoring or some other type of support. Should that not bring the desired change, set boundaries and benchmarks. Firing an employee–looking someone straight in the eye and telling them they no longer have a source of income–is one of the toughest things you’ll ever have to do as a business owner. It’s often as hard on the person giving the bad news as it is on the person receiving it. And yet it still needs to be done, especially if you have someone who’s “poisoning the well” and bringing the entire business down with them. —Entrepreneur Even at these great lengths, you might still find the problem isn’t being solved. So, when the decision to part ways is the last option, know your legal limits. If you’re in an “at-will” employment state, you generally won’t have a problem. However, if he or she is under contract, run it by your attorney. Now, if it’s someone who is involved in impropriety, that’s a whole other manner, because it might be a criminal matter, and, you might be civilly liable. When the time comes to have the actual meeting, do the following: See him or her early in the day. There are several reasons for this, one is for your own benefit, because you’ll be distracted if you wait. Other reasons are you’re not wasting his or her time (which he or she will feel cheated and/or used), you are taking poor work out of his or her hands and giving it to someone who is competent, and, you’re sending a message to others that you listen and act when someone else isn’t working out. Be direct, honest, but not blameful. If it’s reached the point that firing is the only option, he or she is probably quite aware of what’s going on and how it will end. If the individual is not aware or seems blindsided, then you need to look at your Leadership and Management communication as it relates to setting expectations, boundaries and clear direction. Give reasons why, don’t sugarcoat them, but do not be blameful or belligerent. Give praise where it’s deserved. You can give points of praise where it’s deserved but don’t overdo it. Be genuine and graceful while keeping yourself aware of how it’s being received. Be ready to listen. Being told you’re no longer needed or feel unwanted are powerful emotional stirs. You might hear insults, threats, or other unpleasantness, but it’s out of an emotional outburst, don’t take it personally. Explain what will happen next. The finality might take time to sink-in, and, you’ll do him or her a great service by explaining what happens next. For instance, returning company property, retirement account options, these sorts of things. Another kind gesture is to allow them to say goodbye and get their personal possessions together. Rushing someone out the door isn’t dignified, and, it creates a lingering, negative perception that will be with those you still employ. Show courtesy, respect, and empathy and you’ll make the best of a bad situation. [shareaholic app=”follow_buttons” id=”26833294″]

Biggest Mistakes to Avoid when Selling a Small Business

April 14, 2022 No Comments

When it comes time to sell your small business, you want to make sure that you avoid making any major mistakes. If you wait too long to sell, you may miss out on a great opportunity. If you don’t find the right person to represent your business, you could end up selling it for much less than it’s worth. And if you don’t market the business for sale, you may not get the best price. In this article, we will discuss five of the biggest mistakes to avoid when selling your small business: Not finding the right person to represent the business: If you don’t find the right person to represent your business, you could end up selling it for much less than it’s worth. It’s important to find someone who knows how to negotiate and who has experience in selling businesses. Otherwise, you may not get the best price for your business. Most sellers don’t expect the exit from their company to be easy, but many are surprised by how difficult it can be to sell their business for a good price in a reasonable timeframe, especially in the current economic environment. It’s important, however, to not let frustration get in the way of maximizing your sale. —Entrepreneur.com Before you speak with a business broker, it’s highly advisable to get your corporate affairs in order and understand the process. An experienced business consultant can help with these and much more. The bottom line is, that you need to know key details in order to identify the right buyer. Forgoing marketing the business for sale: If you don’t market the business for sale, you may not get the best price. You need to let people know that the business is up for sale and you need to promote it in order to attract potential buyers. You want multiple buyers interested in making offers so that the demand drives up your selling price. This doesn’t mean spending copious amounts of money. But, it does mean advertising smartly to the right people. Asking too much or too little for the business: If you ask too much for the business, you may not get any offers. If you ask too little, you could end up selling the business for less than it’s worth. It’s important to find a fair price that will attract buyers but that won’t leave you feeling like you’ve given away your hard work for nothing. Conversely, if you put it up for sale at a discounted price, otherwise interested buyers might think you’re trying to sell to get rid of a headache. Selling to the wrong person or other company: If you sell to the wrong person or other company, you could end up regretting it later. Make sure that you know who you’re selling the business to and that they are someone who will be able to take it in the direction you want it to go. In other words, someone who shares your business values and approach. Otherwise, you could see your beloved creation turn into something you would never want it to be. These are just a few of the biggest mistakes to avoid when selling your small business. By following these tips, you can help ensure that you get the best price for your business and that you don’t end up regretting the sale later on. If you have any questions about selling your small business, please feel free to contact us anytime! We would be happy to help! Interested in learning more about starting, running, buying, or selling a business? Then just visit Waters Business Consulting Group.

BREAKING NEWS! Entrepreneurs who need to raise capital will have no restrictions!

May 24, 2017 No Comments

Hi Everyone! The moment many of us have been waiting for has finally arrived! About an hour ago, the Securities & Exchange Commission (SEC) voted to approve the FINAL rules for Title III Equity Crowdfunding under the JOBS act legislation. What this means is that in approximately 90 days, ANYONE, regardless of income, will be able to invest in a startup by purchasing shares or issuing debt and earning a financial return on their investment. This also provides entrepreneurs who need to raise capital a HUGE new investor pool as there are no restrictions on income or net worth in order to make an investment (there are caps / safeguards however built into the legislation). I will update you all as I get more information but today is a HUGE day to celebrate! To everyone who has been following this movement for the last few years, get ready for things to change in a HUGE way! Manolis Sfinarolakis Founder & CEO RCTV & VICN This is great news for Entrepreneurs who want to raise funds from the general population. I’ll post more on this later, in the meantime please share and celebrate! John Waters [shareaholic app=”follow_buttons” id=”26833294″]