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Is Your Most Loyal Customer Sabotaging Your Business?

It’s a scenario right out of science fiction. But, as the saying goes, “Truth is stranger than fiction.” And that was probably your initial reaction when you first learned your best customer is doing the unthinkable—purposely sabotaging your business. What makes this behavior even more perplexing is the nefarious motive behind it. That being, your customer wants to “keep” you all to themself. But why? And how should you deal with it?

How Business Owners Can Handle Customers Who Secretly Badmouth and Don’t Give Recommendations

You pour your heart into delivering exceptional products or services as a business owner. So, it’s frustrating to discover a customer who secretly badmouths your business while refusing to recommend you to others—not out of dissatisfaction, but to keep your offerings a secret from their competitors.

This behavior, though rooted in a backhanded compliment, can harm your reputation and growth. So, here’s a short guide detailing the ways to address this issue tactfully, maintain professionalism, and turn the situation into an opportunity.

Understanding the Customer’s Motive

First, recognize why a customer might act this way. When someone loves your product or service but hides their endorsement, they’re likely trying to maintain a competitive edge. For example, a boutique retailer might avoid recommending your unique supplier to keep their inventory exclusive. While this reflects the value of your offering, their secretive badmouthing—perhaps spreading vague negativity or withholding praise—can damage your reputation indirectly. This behavior often stems from insecurity or fear of losing their market advantage.

The challenge lies in identifying this behavior. Unlike overt critics, these customers are subtle. They may give lukewarm feedback in public, avoid leaving reviews, or deflect when asked about their supplier. To spot them, monitor online chatter, pay attention to inconsistencies in their behavior (e.g., repeat purchases but no referrals), and listen for rumors in your industry network.

Step 1: Engage Directly and Build Trust

Once you suspect a customer is engaging in this behavior, approach them diplomatically. Initiate a private, friendly conversation to understand their perspective. For instance, say, “I’ve noticed you’re a loyal customer, and I’d love to hear how we can better support your business.” This opens the door for them to share concerns or reveal their secret motive without feeling confronted.

During this dialogue, emphasize mutual success. Explain how your business thrives on collaboration and word-of-mouth, which allows you to innovate and serve them better. If they’re worried about competitors, reassure them about your ability to customize offerings or maintain exclusivity (e.g., unique product variations or priority service). Building trust can encourage them to advocate for you rather than undermine you.

Step 2: Address the Badmouthing Tactfully

If you have evidence of their negative comments—say, a vague complaint shared in an industry forum—address it without accusation. For example, contact them and say, “I heard there might be some concerns about our service in your network. I’d love to clear up any misunderstandings and ensure you’re fully satisfied.” This shows you’re proactive and care about their experience, which can disarm their defensiveness.

If they admit to badmouthing, ask open-ended questions: “What prompted that feedback? How can we improve?” Often, their negativity is a smokescreen to deter competitors, not a genuine grievance. By addressing it head-on, you signal that you’re aware and value transparency, which may discourage further undermining.

Step 3: Incentivize Positive Advocacy

To counter their secrecy, create incentives for them to recommend you openly. Offer a referral program, such as discounts or exclusive perks for bringing in new clients. Highlight that your business can serve multiple clients without compromising quality or exclusivity. For example, a graphic design firm could offer a premium service tier for loyal clients, ensuring they feel prioritized even if others discover your work.

You can also appeal to their ego. Invite them to be a “brand ambassador” or feature their success story in your marketing (with their permission). This positions them as a leader in their field, making it harder for them to badmouth you without losing credibility.

Step 4: Protect Your Reputation Proactively

While addressing the individual customer, safeguard your broader reputation. Encourage satisfied clients to leave reviews on platforms like Google, Yelp, or industry-specific groups. Share testimonials and case studies on your website and social media to drown out any covert negativity. If you’re active on platforms like X, engage with your audience to build a positive narrative around your brand.

If the badmouthing escalates or spreads false information, consider a subtle public response. For instance, post a general statement addressing “misconceptions” about your business, focusing on your commitment to quality and transparency. Avoid naming the customer to maintain professionalism.

Step 5: Know When to Let Go

Sometimes, a customer’s behavior is too toxic to salvage. If they persist in badmouthing despite your efforts, weigh the cost of keeping them. Politely distance yourself by prioritizing clients who align with your values. For example, you might say, “We’ve loved serving you, but we’re shifting focus to clients who can fully partner with us in growth.” This preserves your energy for customers who uplift your business.

Turning a Challenge into Opportunity

Dealing with a customer who secretly badmouths and doesn’t give recommendations is tricky, but it’s also a chance to refine your approach. By engaging empathetically, incentivizing advocacy, and protecting your reputation, you can transform a covert critic into a vocal supporter—or at least neutralize their impact. Ultimately, your focus should remain on delivering value and building a community of clients who champion your work openly.

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During the Coronavirus Quarantine, Communication is Key

April 1, 2020 No Comments

With the massive disruption the coronavirus has foisted on businesses and consumers alike, it’s more important than ever to keep an open line of communication. While many focus on the need for telecommuting or teleworking, they do not highlight on the very vital role of maintaining good relationships with not only customers, but vendors, and peers as well. What the Coronavirus Quarantine Teaches Businesses If COVID-19 teaches businesses large, medium, and small anything, it’s the fact to always expect the unexpected. Or, be prepared for as many contingencies as possible. While you can’t proactively guard against every single scenario, there are situations which your business should be equipped to handle. For instance, natural disasters, criminal activity, and of course, epidemics or as we’re experiencing now, a pandemic. Because nobody can predict what will happen next with the coronavirus, this causes great uncertainty. And this uncertainty has a direct impact on businesses. The only thing they can do is try to prepare for all outcomes. —JD Supra This isn’t by any means easy, but it is necessary to at least have a framework to deal with emergency situations, particularly those that have a long-term impact, such as the one the business world is experiencing right now. If you aren’t prepared, it will have a more disastrous impact on your company than it otherwise would. How to Maintain Business Relationships during a Time of Crisis When catastrophe strikes, it can come in many forms. If you’re business is able to continue operations, even in a very limited capacity, then it’s of utmost importance to keep lines of communication open with everyone. Here are a few helpful suggestions for how to do just that: Reassure employees. Although no one can predict the future, you do need to be upfront and honest about your situation with your team members. While you don’t need to paint a doomsday scenario, you do need to let them know where things stand and what’s likely to happen. Reach out to customers. Many churches around the country are digitally broadcasting their weekly messages. And, some are even taking it a step further by personally phoning every single member. You can do the same with your customers, starting with the most valuable. Give them a call personally, or have employees join you to touch base with everyone. Speak with your vendors. This is basically the same idea. But, here you’re doing two things — giving them a heads-up of where you stand and inquiring as to what they are doing and have planned for the near future. Take some time to reflect. You should also take advantage of any downtime to do a little introspection. Use the opportunity to unplug in a quiet place and think about your next course of action and how you can improve your business. What other suggestions do you have? Please comment to let everyone know about your thoughts and experiences! Interested in learning more about business? Then just visit Waters Business Consulting Group.

The Entrepreneurs Guide to Vacationing

May 5, 2017 No Comments

If there’s one thing that successful entrepreneurs possess, it’s drive. The drive to start a business on a small scale and grow it to larger and larger proportions. The drive to make improvements and to learn from mistakes. The drive to encourage employees, professional associates, and friends to do their best and deliver on their promises. The drive to drive at practically everything, especially toward new goals. It’s hitting the brakes which often doesn’t come naturally. Though the idea of relaxing on a beach, hitting the ski slopes, or visiting a new destination might be intriguing and tempting, all can easily fall short because you won’t actually enjoy your vacation. Instead, you’ll be checking your smartphone and/or tablet, and might even phone-in now and again just to see what’s going on, and of course, to provide your sage advice. How to Take a Vacation from Your Business and Make It Work Why you ought to be concerned about your business while you’re away, you have to establish and respect some boundaries. It’s very difficult to put aside your business passion, but such a thing is absolutely necessary; and, it’s also quite healthy in more ways than one. While the human species is built, in-part, for work, it is also limited as to what it can handle. These are the reasons we feel tired after a day at work and why entertainment has risen to such a popular level for escape. Giving yourself permission to walk away from your company can be difficult. But if you can’t do it for yourself, do it for your staff: When you take vacation time, you’re setting a good example. —Entrepreneur.com Of course, such an escape can not only come from sports, books, television, and the like, but also from vacation. Some business owners actually go on vacation and never really leave their businesses, which is the definition of waste. When you consider the fact that someone would make plans, pay for travel and lodging, along with other expenses and not truly enjoy their time off, it makes the whole affair more costly and more unhealthy. I had a partner, in a previous business, who one time proclaimed with some sense of pride and peppered with a bit hint of martyr … “I HAVEN’T TAKEN A DAY OFF IN 5 YEARS”. Needless-to-say, he was and is a very hard worker, but reports from his remaining staff say the environment is like a “Salt Mine”! Everyone needs a break from work and that certainly includes business owners. When you start and build a company, it’s only natural to want to stay the course and keep your hands on the wheel. After all, the business wouldn’t exist without you and it wouldn’t be able to grow if you weren’t there. Though it might be difficult to take time off, it’s necessary and there are things you can do to take a vacation from your business and make the most of it: Have an action plan in-place. This isn’t a plan for you, but those who stay behind to run the business. It seems that Murphy’s Law takes effect the moment you aren’t present, so, have at least one contingency plan but don’t make it complicated. It should be easy to follow and simple. Know that you’ve invested in the right people. Your employees were likely hand-picked by you and this is a great time to see how well you chose your team members. Of course, there’s probably one who is a natural leader and who knows the business well to leave in-charge while you’re away. Disconnect from the day-to-day. You might check-in very briefly on a weekly basis, and that’s acceptable; but don’t give into the temptation of running your business from a distance. In our time, technology allows us to connect at any time and share information in moments. Those moments are just too precious and you need to disconnect. Put your family first. Okay, so your conscience is telling you that you work too much, too long, and don’t spend enough time with your family but you don’t change. This is the time when you can spend quality time and create wonderful memories. I have a client who hired my company in 2011 to help his retail business during the rough economic recession. He said that he was at his limit, and was ready to “throw in the towel”. Besides helping this client to recover, improve sales, cash flow, moral and pay down past debt and taxes, our Client wanted more time off with his family and vacations. The time off and vacations appeared to be a distant goal given the carnage left from simply trying to survive the recession, but we developed a strategy and took action weekly to clear up the past taxes and debt while helping him pursue his goal of time off and vacations. In 2013 he took time off and this motivated him to do it again. In 2014, our Client planned a family vacation for the summer. So, we helped our Client plan out and detail the specific and critical business metrics that needed to be managed by each of his team while he was gone. My Client reviewed this plan and his expectations on the metrics and operations protocol (i.e. Leads, Sales, Cash Receipts per Day, Deliveries, Installations, Service, and how to handle emergencies) with his Team. When he returned from his vacation, I asked; “how was your vacation and how did your team handle your being away for 10 days?” His response, “this was one of the best family vacations I’ve had in a long, long time, and there were very few issues while I was gone … I am looking forward to doing it again”. My Client took another week in Montana in the fall of that year, and 2014 ended up a record year in sales all while he built a team that will continue to allow him more vacations and time off

3 Subtle but Serious Signs a Business Partnership is in Big Trouble

February 6, 2020 No Comments

Ostensibly, a partnership is an ideal way to bring two necessary but different skill-sets together. After all, it makes sense to join various strengths in order to form an alliance. Such an arrangement seems like it will yield fruitful results. However, far more partnerships fail than succeed. There are many obvious reasons why this happens. But, it’s not always so clear-cut. So, let’s take a look at some subtle telltale signs that a partnership is in trouble. The Biggest Partnership Dangers Dave Ramsey has made famous his five dangerous D’s of partnerships: death, disability, disinterest, drugs, and divorce. Of those, only one makes the list below. That’s because it’s not always crystal clear that something is awry. You generally spend more waking hours at work than at home, which means you have more opportunities to interact with your business partner and the nature of your interactions tend to be more intense, with more potential for conflict because there are so many external variables that are beyond your control. —Forbes.com There are scenarios when very subtle factors are in play. Unfortunately, most business people miss these signals put out by their partners. Eventually, they become more pronounced and at that point, it is usually too late to save the enterprise. 3 Signs a Business Partnership is in Jeopardy When a business partner goes through a very difficult time in his or her life, it’s usually quite easy to see the writing on the wall. But, there are instances when there are no overt problems or issues. Here are three subtle yet serious signs a business partnership is in trouble: Apathetic. Let’s begin with the only sign that makes the list above — disinterest. This can manifest in two different but similar forms: distraction and apathy. A lack of concern and focus can wreak loads of havoc on a business. Before you know it, the onus falls on you alone. That’s when you’ll realize your partner is no longer interested in participating. And, by this time, it usually causes an irreversible rift. Autonomy. On the opposite side of the spectrum is autonomy. Sure, being able to operate independently is typically a good thing. Except when there’s far too much of it. So much, you find out about key decisions well after the fact. This is a sign that unpleasant news is most likely on its way to you. Elusive. This is a very tough one and perhaps, the most frustrating of the two because it’s so difficult to understand. When your partner becomes elusive, that is to say, overzealous one moment and indifferent the next, you’ll struggle to cope with why. This will only lead to unnecessary disruptions and make the partnership unsustainable. What other signs would you add to the list? Please share your thoughts and experiences by commenting! Interested in learning more about business? Then just visit Waters Business Consulting Group.