Just be nice. You’ve heard it from your mother. You heard it in kindergarten (and through school). It’s on tee-shirts and bumper stickers. And, it’s good advice, for the most part. But, it’s a recipe for disaster when it’s always your default disposition. Sure, you should be nice to people as it’s the polite thing to do. But, being too nice will cause all kinds of unintentional issues. Read on to see why. How Assertiveness can Hurt You On the flip side, being too assertive can also be quite harmful. Don’t get the wrong impression. You do need to be assertive, just at the right “temperature.” If you are too assertive, you’ll come across as overbearing. And, downright mean, in some situations. People also might think you too coarse and possibly aloof or antipathetic. Leaders are placed under a tremendous amount of pressure to be relatable, human and … nice. Many yield to this instinct, because it feels much easier to be liked. Few people want to be the bad guy. But leaders are also expected to make the tough decisions that serve the company or the team’s best interests. Being too nice can be lazy, inefficient, irresponsible, and harmful to individuals and the organization. —Havard Business Review Assertiveness can also be taken as overly self-serving. Basically, it’s an attitude that can easily come across the wrong way in more ways than one. Although, assertiveness does have a purpose and when it’s used strategically, it’s highly effective. That’s because striking a balance gives you the best of both worlds and a positive perspective. Which ultimately helps you to see things more clearly and make better decisions. Top Ways being Too Nice is Harmful Conversely, being too nice, is at best, problematic. It creates illusions that simply can’t be sustained. In essence, it’s a false impression, even if you’re being genuine. How? Well, here’s how being too nice is harmful in business: You project weakness. When you’re overly nice, you’re perceived as a pushover. It’s that simple. People who have this impression will try to take advantage, when and where they can. And, that sets-up a bad scenario. You attract the wrong people. Another problem with being too nice is that it does attract the wrong sort of people. Some others will take this as a green light to burden you with their own problems. Which means, you’re inviting unnecessary stress and drama into your life. People might feel distrustful. Niceness can bring out negative feelings in others you interact with. For instance, someone could sense you’re actually concealing your true feelings and merely putting up a front. So, they manifest a sense of distrustfulness. You bias your own expectations. When you’re constantly nice, you might make others feel better. But, you’re also inadvertently warping your own expectations, thinking everyone else should treat you the same. How do you balance being courteous and polite with also being assertive? What other advice would you offer? Please share your thoughts and experiences! Interested in learning more about business? Then just visit Waters Business Consulting Group.

Setbacks are inevitable. They come in many shapes and sizes and some appear from out of the blue. When you encounter a setback, it triggers different emotions. You feel shocked, unprepared, perhaps angry or down. It’s only natural to feel bad after a setback but it’s how you handle it that really matters most. How to Overcome a Setback Everyone experiences setbacks, large and small. During these times it’s easy to feel overwhelmed and maybe even unappreciated. (This is especially true when it involves an interpersonal relationship.) Minor setbacks throw us off for a few hours but others are much more significant and really throw us in a tailspin. While we will all experience roadblocks, we will differ in how we handle them. Some of us have the resilience to just pick up the pieces and move on. Others find it difficult to let go. Either way, how do we learn from the tough times? —Entrepreneur.com Whatever the cause and no matter the size, it’s important to understand you aren’t out of options. Sure, you feel helpless to one degree or another. And, it does bring into question what’s all that time and effort for, anyway? But, if you put things into perspective, you’ll begin to realize it’s not the end-all, be-all. Effective Ways to Deal with a Setback We all know adversary helps to build character. Although, no one welcomes tough times, whether in the form of a setback or something else. So, here are some effective ways to deal with a setback you can put to use: It’s only temporary. Very few setbacks are insurmountable. And, most are only temporary. Realize it is just a temporary situation that will pass. It will only linger and bother you the longer you allow it. If you put it into perspective, it’s merely one of many temporary obstacles. Your goals remain. Sure, it does bring into question what all your hard work is for in the first place. And, it undermines your sense of accomplishment and success. While these are certainly true, it doesn’t change your goals. Refocus on your goals to help you overcome. Reset the timetable. Any setback will throw off the timeline, there’s little way around this fact. But, that doesn’t mean you can adapt and readjust your timetable to make it workable again. Take action, right away. Of course, the worst response is to do nothing at all. It will not get you past the situation and will only serve to make it haunt you even more. Take action straight away and you’ll start to feel better immediately. What other methods would you suggest to get past a setback? Please share your thoughts and experiences by commenting! Interested in learning more about business? Then just visit Waters Business Consulting Group.